The greatness of humility

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“And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross.”

PHILIPPIANS 2:8

The humility it is found in a large ocean of quiet water that flows in the depth. In the deep lies self esteem. At the beginning, going into the ocean is like traveling to an unknown area of immense darkness. But, as well as exploring can lead to discover buried treasures, in the search you can find buried jewels. And the jewel that is buried in the deepest, the one that shines and gives more light is the humility. His rays penetrate the darkest moments. Eliminate fear, the insecurity and opens the person to universal truths.

Be an instrument

Humility is to accept natural principles that can not be controlled. All we have, from the body with which we were born to the most precious possessions, they are received as a gift. Therefore, it becomes a moral imperative to use these resources in a valuable and benevolent way. The awareness of being an instrument of such unlimited and timeless resources touches the essence of the human soul and wakes her up to realize that, just as at the time of birth those resources were inherited, at the time of death they will have to leave.

The awareness of being an instrument raises self-esteem and enhances the multiple different relationships found throughout life. It takes you to a state of silent reflection, inviting you to take some time for yourself and to look at life from a different perspective. The recognition of being an instrument makes the person seek renewal of relationships with others and the self.

Eliminate the “I” and the “mine”

Humility is letting go and letting be. The stone of conflict lies in the consciousness of “me” and “mine” and the possessiveness: of a role, an activity, an object, a person, even the body. Paradoxically, this consciousness makes you lose what you want to hold on to and, especially, makes him lose the most significant, the universal values that give value and meaning to life. Humility eliminates possessiveness and the limited vision that creates physical, intellectual and emotional limits. These limitations destroy self-esteem and build walls of arrogance and pride that distance people. Humility acts gently on the fissures, allowing the approach.

Everyone do “reverence” before a person who possesses the virtue of humility, since all revere themselves before those who have reverenced themselves first. So, the sign of greatness is humility. Humility allows the person to be trustworthy, flexible and adaptable. To the extent that one becomes humble, acquires greatness in the heart of others. Whoever is the personification of humility will make the effort to listen and accept others. The more you accept others, will be valued more and will be heard more. Humility automatically makes one worthy of praise.

The call to serve

Success in serving others comes from humility. The greater the humility, the greater the achievement. There can be no benefit to the world without humility. The service is carried out in the best way when we consider ourselves an instrument and when we take the first step to accept another that is different.

A humble person can adapt to all environments, by strange or negative that these are. There will be humility in attitude, in the vision, in words and relationships. The humble person will never say: “I did not mean to say it, but the words simply came up”. According to the attitude, this will be the vision; depending on the vision, the words will reflect that and the three aspects combined will ensure the quality of the interactions. The mere presence of a humble person creates an attractive environment, cordial and comfortable. His words are full of essence, power and expresses them with good manners. A humble person can make another person’s anger disappear with a few words. A word spoken with humility has the meaning of a thousand words.

In the high tides of human interrelations, humility is the beacon of light that emits signals about what awaits us in the distance. To capture these signals, the screen of the mind and intellect must be clean. Humility provides the ability to perceive situations, discern the causes of obstacles and difficulties as well as remain silent. When one must express an opinion, one does so with an open mind and with the recognition of the particularities, strength and sensitivity of others and oneself.

“To overcome vanity begin by overcoming the desire to show your humility.”

ALEJANDRO JODOROWSKY
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How to understand and be interested in life

I don’t know exactly where this question came from but I guess it was from everything that surrounds me. Yes, exactly what you read. My eternal question was always what life is and why. For me, understanding this concept could help me obtain a will and an iron motivation. Why do I say this? Because if I discover that the fact that it exists is for a purpose greater than what I observe superficially then I will have discovered the mission for my life (and what I want and what I don’t want to do), but if I discover that there is no such special meaning then I will get peace because I will not be running anymore after something that may not exist. Either way, the truth (and these are not my words) it frees you. I do not have a total understanding, but for now it is very clear that my mission is to discover the truth. As I discover that truth, I will correct what I could now have misunderstood.

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Without using theories or explanations of others I will try to give my own vision of life (which may be wrong or at least slightly crooked) based on the observation of nature, so take from this the good part you agree with and what seems strange to you and you do not understand, discard it.

I have some of this clear, understanding for me is to connect. And to connect you must find something in common that have two or more different things (different because in the end it is about learning new things and understanding more and more of everything that covers our existence). Like when you use glue to glue paper to, for example, a wooden surface: they are different things that you put together but they are together because the two share the same thing, the glue.

TO CONNECT IS UNDERSTANDING THE WAY THAT TWO THINGS RELATE BETWEEN THEM AND HOW THEY DO IT.

It is not my intention to make you suffer with this article by reading this paragraph, so next I’m going to list the way I connect things to each other and try to understand what my existence entails:

  1. Choose one thing that you really like. Videogames, books, activities, food… whatever… It will be important to be able to motivate yourself to take the next step.
  2. Get a deep understanding of what you have chosen. Study, practice and try to get the most experience, make it part of you… get to understand the mechanism of how it works at a “molecular” level. You have to do a very serious investigation for this, where planning will be the base of your actions.
  3. Compare what you have learned and find patterns. Try to compare everything you find new with the model already created in your head of what you already know. As you come into contact with new things they will need to be sorted, and understand what place they have in their particular operating mechanism. For example, if I’m an expert archer, and I start doing athletics (running) I have to understand that there is a certain equivalence between pulling the bowstring backwards to be able to shoot the arrow and the position that the runner adopts at the beginning of the race and then be able to get out as quickly as possible towards the finish line.
  4. Apply what you have learned. Having become used to finding patterns, you will be able to learn new things very easily by finding their equivalence with your mental scheme already prepared and improved in the area of choice in the step 1.

In this way, there are no longer difficult tasks, only complicated. And the complicated is made up of simple things, just like a wall has bricks or that air is made up of different gases. Learn to understand what role that brick has or that gas and possibly together we can find behind all this a great truth.

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How to have a proactive attitude

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We all have dreams, plans and expectations. Nevertheless, its application will depend to a great extent on the attitude you take in life. Certainly, being proactive does not guarantee success, but passivity guarantees failure. These are some tips to help you produce and to take a proactive attitude towards the challenges.
Do not bet on passivity. React and adopt a proactive attitude. Do not let things just happen, get involved. Therefore, almost any event will be as you have decided. You can see where life takes you and be surprised by the results, or you can consciously choose to build the reality in which you want to live.
Turn these ideas into action. Adopting a proactive approach is putting thoughts into action. I’m brave and I dare to fight for what I want and in addition, if I am successful, the profit will be huge.

Take a flexible attitude. The world around us is in constant movement and as a proactive person you must adapt to change. To experience this feeling, try to do something different every day. Observe how you react and how those around you react. Learn to enjoy the variety of life and do not be afraid of anything.

Take risks, in this life nothing is easy. Each person is different and we have capacities that can vary in certain circumstances, so try to be willing to take some risk and avoid other ones. Do not forget that if you want to be proactive, you must risk to win. If you made a mistake, don’t complain, this will serve to improve a little more each day.

Try to be creative in any situation, in this way you will see that the problems are solved more easily. If your goal is to become a proactive person, then you have to challenge your imagination and allow your creativity to grow. Generate ideas and strategies to solve the difficulties that arise.

Behave always well with others! Even if you have a bad day, do not forget to be friendly. Always respect others. The adoption of this attitude will be very beneficial for proactivity. Remember that being proactive does not mean being rude or arrogant. Concentrate on using the resources you have in the best possible way and thus you will increase your self-esteem to achieve everything you want. Do not be discouraged if you stumble, get up again; perseverance is the key.

It is said that a true warrior is not the one who never loses, but the one that always returns to the battle.

Your order is your time

 

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Straight to the point (military style): an orderly life gives you time. ¿Time? Yes, time to do everything you dreamed of, time to feed yourself better, time to be able to dedicate time to loved ones, time for your studies, time for your rest, time for your hobbies, time for everything… Well-managed time is a source of wealth.

And no, it’s not complicated. Did you ever hear about “Search and you will find”? Well, in this article we will teach you quickly, since we do not want you to waste time, on how to have an ordered life that gives you the desired freedom and that teach you at the same time to be more responsible, more capable of being the administrator of your life. We will show you what we have searched and found. And do you know what the tragedy of almost any problem is? The solution is usually (not always) a hand’s breadth away. I would say that because of that, many times you find the solution by accident. Maybe a stumble. 😉

Next we want to provide you some weapons and combat strategies so that you do not lose in this war against chaos.

COMBAT STRATEGIES

  • A plan. The synonym of order is planification. You will need a plan to be able to do everything you want. You should plan in the long run but also at the short and medium distance. What do we suggest? Lists. Yes, lists. Why lists? Well, when you get up between your first activities you will make a list of all the points you want to fulfill on that day. A week later, however, we suggest you that during the sunday you plan the week that is ahead of you. In general, nothing complicated. And then daily, when you get up, detail those tasks as much as you need and want. We also suggest that for long distance (since for now we have talked about the short and the average distance) you make a plan of what you want to achieve in life and why. Do not delay more time. Life goes by in a breath.
  • Motivation. Succeeding in your “daily missions” gives you the strength to feel that you can win the next battle (applicable also for PvP / JcJ). Therefore, as a Beneberak soldier, your first mission of the morning before making the list and saying good morning (just kidding, do not be rude … that does not fit here). You should make your bed as perfectly as possible. So perfect and well organized that if you had the worst day of your life when you came back home and look at that perfectly perfect bed you could say: “At least this day has been worth it for the perfection of that bed”. I hope you understood what we were referring to. Making your bed as good as possible gives you the motivation to do things as well as possible and, after all, the motivation to do them.
  • Your environment. Probably, from the beginning, we have dizz you a little with the time, but an orderly life does not only have to do with the planned time but also with the space. Remember, time and space (we have some physicist in our ranks and sure when they see this, they will smile). You need to order and place your clothes millimetrically (and iron them), clean and order your room, have your shoes clean, etc. Your private life is reflected in the work environment in which you find yourself. Be strictly ordered. Do not forget what we have told you about time and space (it’s a few lines up; Had you forgotten? DO NOT FORGET IT, REMEMBER IT).
  • Be persistent. Changes in your life for your comfortable brain is traumatic. Change traumatizes you. Learn to adapt. Just be persevering and although things do not come out at the beginning as you would like to, remember that you are an example for your comrades and, when you bring the best out of you, gives the best of them. And what better than to start with an orderly life!? That life that gave you the necessary time, blah blah …
  • Do one thing at a time. Multitasking is antiproductive.

COMBAT WEAPONS

  • Habitica. This application will help you to make the necessary lists, daily, weekly and life… but with an added element. We hope you like it! You are ready? Well there goes… adapted for gamers, or whatever you want to call it… What exactly does it consist of? In that you have a character that you can customize (you know, like in a role play) and you add the missions to fulfill within 3 categories: things that you have to do on time, daily things and habits. The first category does not require further explanation, the second option is for daily missions (your routine) and the third the habits that you want to enhance. For example, for the third option, if you want to leave a vice you would put the respective vice and each time you avoid it, you would hit the “+” button. And that’s it? No, as you complete the missions you gain gold and level, you buy armor and upgrade your weapons, from level 11 you have special abilities… anyway, investigate it personally.
  • Paper. Writing your list on sheets of paper could be tempting and can give you enough satisfaction, and even more for having written them by hand. But think about it, Why not avoid them? Poor trees. Respect yourself and your environment.

As we have developed new ideas or improve the ones we already have, we will publish them. But we are humble and we like to learn from you. Please, if you are so kind, comment on what you do to be an orderly person.

A very strong hug!

Law of attraction, reality or myth

I don’t know in a detailed way what is that law about, but you don’t have to be any kind of mystic that, through rituals of dubious origin, you invoke this power…
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To be sure that we are on the same wavelength, I’ll tell you briefly what it’s about. The law of attraction is that each of us has a certain frequency of vibration, mainly determined by the quality of our thoughts and emotions, which in turn are pure energy.
The electromagnetic signals generated by the heart have the ability to affect ourselves, to the others, but also to the surrounding environment. Or shortly: It’s like a boomerang, that is to say, what you emit outside, inevitably comes back to you.

I’m not the kind of person who likes this kind of oddities, especially if it has an oriental influence, dont ask me why, I just don’t like them. Nevertheless, with the desire of extracting the lessons that can be useful for me, I have come to the personal conclusion that this law is a kind of mental predisposition to reach an objective. And I explain you what I understood:

Your mind is aligned with the fact that it will achieve a goal through constant work done in the chosen direction, since this work produces a transfer of energy between thought and action that then aligns you even more with the imposed objective so that you get an imminent sense of success that makes you work even better. It is a vicious circle that goes from action to thought, from thought to action and from action to thought, but every time at a deeper level. It is not important where you start, it is important to do it now. Why? Because, for example, if you want to change the way you are, then your only time to do it is the present because the more time passes, more we move away from the desired goal because other influences fill our minds making us lose the objective of sight and changing our daily actions that end up deepening in something that right now you do not like but that will give you pleasure one day plunging you into something that ironically gives you pleasure but makes you unhappy.

With or without law, from my point of view, it matters the fact that perseverance will take you to your goal. It’s a kind of practical faith, you want and it happens, as if it were magic. So take care of your thoughts since they lead your life consciously and unconsciously.

Ah, and if you want a change in your life, for real, keep in mind that you will not be able to do it tomorrow. Each day has his own worries.

How to listen properly

Listening means learning. At least this is one of the reasons why I consider it important for me to develop the ability to listen, especially for relationships between humans. In my opinion people give a better impression about them if they are good listeners, more than good speakers. In fact, you speak better if you listen better. Since I am a big fan of psychology and I think that by changing my way of thinking I also change my life, I will share here five golden rules of how to listen effectively: 
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  1. Use active listening: this consists in encouraging the interlocutor to continue talking by rephrasing what the other person has said. This method allows a person to express himself openly since you do not express your opinion. Also, it means not thinking about what you are going to say next.
  2. Use minimal stimulus: stimulate the other person to continue talking through phrases like: I understand, yes, Is that true?, tell me more…
  3. Keep eye contact with the speaker: look him in the eyes every time he looks at you, in this way a connection is created between both.
  4. Lean towards the interlocutor: we tend to get away from what we do not like or that bother us. Instead of that, show interest by leaning forward.
  5. Don’t interrupt the speaker and don’t change the subject: avoid the need of changing the subject. Allow who’s talking to finish what he has to say.

Personally, I have become aware that I have a flaw in this aspect. I encourage you to join me and together we can advise each other on this aspect.

If you have any ideas, please, leave a comment so I can learn from you.

How to say thank you

To some it may seem a banality to learn how to say thank you, but this is one of the most important skills in the art of building interhuman relationships. Let us seek to thank those around us whenever we can.

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Four keys to thank effectively:

  1. Give thanks in a clear way: Speaking clearly you do not allow any doubt that you are sincerely thanking. Do it cheerfully. If others hear you, the effect is even more powerful.
  2. Look and touch the person: Look to someone in the eyes helps to convince you of your sincerity, and touching his/her elbow slightly will remember your gratitude for a longer time.
  3. Pronounces his name: Customize your “thank you”. Saying “thank you, Ruben” has a better effect than a “thank you”
  4. Send a note: According to the situation, is the most effective way to thank. A “thank you” face-to-face is in second place followed by doing it on a phone call; and a written message is better than silence.

Let’s be honest when we thank something. Let’s make that person feel that the “thanks” are sincere. If they are not, body language will betray us. Let us become messengers of the “thank you”. Let’s look for reasons to thank for things that are not obvious.