How to flirt at a GOD-like level

The couple, according to my point of view, it has a very clear purpose: procreate and give support, both for the parents as to the children. It is a refuge, a source of stability at a personal level, as well as at society level.

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To have families where the love is primal means a loving society. Peace and not war.

The most suitable synonym that I have found for the word “love” is sacrifice. A renunciation of the self by the person next to you. A renunciation of the things that are not worth it, what doesn’t develop you as a person but rather destroys you.

Therefore, and as a conclusion to this paragraph, Our main objective is to achieve the capacity for mutual growth by “watering” that love that grows more every day.

It is something progressive.

Love is like building a house: a project (of life). You’ll need to first decide to make a house, collect materials of high quality, consult a good architect… You’ll need solid foundations on which to base your structure, something that really resist the storms. “Those foundations” transferred to love represent a mutual desire to unite the efforts of both to build things well, although sometimes I can go slow (slow but safe).

You need to know if the person you decide to start a project with is someone serious, someone who won’t leave you when things go wrong, someone who even enjoys the obstacles of life because she / he knows that it only have one sense: walk forward and learn from it, always getting up. You need a determined person who really does what she / he says (control her resume). A person who loves you.

It’s worth more better alone than in bad company (The Celestina II 123)

Therefore, dear n00b (rookie):

  • Don’t rush choosing partner.
  • Don’t go out the on weekend to “making out” because that destabilizes you psychologically and it willn’t allow you in the future to create a relationship of trust because you won’t control yourself betraying in this way the trust of the person next to you. And if you both think you can do what you want while you talk about it before, then you aren’t creating a house but a hostess club. I would dare to say that then the shelter you were looking for won’t be there. You won’t have protection. You will be vulnerable. Do you want to lose or what? 😀
  • Learn to control yourself… not because you like it, it means that it’s good. Life isn’t disgusting, it’s composed of accidents and decisions. Your accidents will allow you to be a stronger person and your decisions have to be as wise as possible so that you don’t “cut your only branch that holds you” and then cry for it. Be mature!
  • Don’t allow any type of abuse. Let me repeat it: DO NOT ALLOW ANY TYPE OF ABUSE. It’s possible not to be right but it can be very different how the person next to you makes you see it. No matters if you are male or female, don’t let ANYONE disrespect you verbally, physically, mentally or even spiritually. You are as valuable as the universe, you have an infinite value. Don’t waste yourself, please.
  • Use the time of engagement to decide if that person is really worth it and if not leave it. But do it gently, don’t hurt.
  • Develop your honesty, don’t pretend to be who you aren’t. You will lose time. But don’t understand this as an excuse to stop improving.
  • If you want to climb a tree and you can’t, it’s because you haven’t developed your climbing skills. In other words, don’t expect to be admired by someone who take cares of himself if you don’t take care of yourself.
  • For me what is really sexy is what is truly sexy.
  • Socialize.

See you next day and be loved very strongly. 😛

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How to make good friends

Do you feel very lonely? Do you need people who influence you positively? Do you want support in the bad times from people who understand you? It looks like commercial advertising… hahaha.

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Well, so to make good friends… you can’t. Friends aren’t created or destroyed 😀 Or don’t you remember this article of the last weeks? Friends aren’t made, they are found.

Each person is responsible in a more or less conscious way for the type of person they will become. It’s all round about “those good decisions at critical moments”. Those decisions that change the course of your life or keep the one you already have. Why do I say this? Because people will be what they want to become, what they work for. You can’t force anyone and even more to perform a job as complex and serious such as improving it’s character. You already have enough with yours!

As if it were a professional category, those people who are hardworking and focused on personal growth will always tend to meet. Well, and not just those people. Normally, and to put it simply, you attract what you are since you recognize similar patterns of behavior and feel identified. Doctors with doctors, engineers with engineers, etc.

OKAY. Understood. It’s true, it’s true… friends aren’t created or destroyed…

Well, since I have clarified this I would like to share another “trick of life” that I’ve observed so according to the people you meet, careful! and this is pretty obvious, you will tend to be like those people. There isn’t non-influenciable person. Those who think themselves invincible are stupid because they’re like blind people. And abruptly changing the subject: “it’s not like you need to have many accidents, with one is enough”.

Therefore, and to sum up, to find good friends you have to turn yourself into that good friend as well. And this is especially useful for the time when your friendships aren’t the “best” in the world. In fact, they throw you down . What should you do? Avoid them. It sounds disastrous, but remember that your life isn’t theirs one. To work on oneself changing to better your way of being is very difficult, something that doesn’t even make you feel like you have to do it. But believe me, these things are the kind of “important decisions at critical moments” I was talking about earlier. Surround yourself with people that inspire you to be a better person: an infallible way is trying to help others. Do it!

How to overcome laziness

You’re comfortably seated on your sofa or on your big armchair after a day of… doing nothing… Furthermore, not only you feel tired but you’re full with boredom since you have lost your true motivation in that moment of your life. You feel that life is escaping you again but you do not care very much either… 

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Wake up! You know very well that you’re not being proactive and without needing to understand why, you’re plunging back into that vicious circle of “every time, things matter to me less”.

The unwillingness to do things influence the activities you have to do for that day, but not only that, they are also the result of the actions you took in the past. That is to say, you’ll be lazy because you are now and you’re now because you were before.

You created a tendency that makes you feel useless and is isolating you little by little. It’s taking you away from what it is to truly live, in short, you’re getting depressed. We’re not talking about a depression caused genetically but rather of unhygienic mental habits in which we fall daily.

And that’s exactly what it’s about: falling. Well, rather to getting up despite the falls.

Being loyal to the title and for not to over extend more, we will present here a powerful and very simple way to break that bad habit. I encourage you to also have a specialist since the causes of your “laziness-depression” could have very bad consequences if isn’t treated early and is ignored as usual. As if only the physical part matters and not the mental part, “as if a computer would work only by it’s hardware and did not have software“.

Be responsible for your actions, your daily decisions changes your life. Although it seems that they don’t have much influence, all the decisions you make “paint a picture” marking your real destiny.

Don’t forget that your laziness could also be due to a bad rest and a bad diet that takes away from you the desire to work. If you don’t have the right fuel, it’s normal that you can’t do anything. Take a look at “Rest“, “Nutrition” and “Sport“.

Magic formula that has its effectiveness only if you do it when you read it the first time (NOW!):

“Get up right now from where you are, wash your face, drink some water, eat if you’re hungry, stretch a bit, take a deep breath, make your bed and you’re ready to take on more complex problems”. Have you realized what I have done?

Start with something as simple as getting up just when you realize you’re doing the lazy and once you get up do immediately another simple action like washing your face or making the bed and you’ll have the day at your feet.

Through a small decision you have changed your day, your week, your month, your life and the lives of the people around you. You’re making a better world, congratulations!

COURAGE, WARRIORS, YOU ARE MADE FOR THINGS THAT YOU STILL CANNOT IMAGINE!

What does being interdependent mean?

Easy peasy! “Inter-” means between and “-dependent” well, you rely on something or someone to, for example, survive.
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Easy, no? Well, everything is already said… The problem of defining it so quickly is that we don’t investigate the practical applications that it has… and since I’m becoming more and more pragmatic (“that thinks or acts giving priority or great importance to practical considerations“) obviously I’m going to have to explain what I learned from this.

Why is it important for me that word being understood? Because I think that is the basis of how to take better care physically and mentally, at an individual level and in relation to the world and the people around us. It also has a spiritual application: a way to be strong in daily life but without being cruel.

For me interdependence is something as simple as two nations that both are working equally and actively developing, have decided to join in an alliance to be more powerful defending each other in case of attack. There is no weak or stronger part but equal.

Reduced at the individual level means that you as a person don’t try to have a relationship with another person who is not at your level. Help, assist, understand, encourage… It can and must be done with all those within our reach. We must be the shield of the weak! But an “alliance” in a deeper plane of a couple should only be done with someone who really has something to contribute to our lives by being people who have developed as we and give us that protection that we also provide reciprocally.

Something like a Spartan phalanx: our shield protects the partner and the shield of the partner protects our own body. The individuals are strong alone but very strong together because they fit, they are compatible.

From here, in what I consider to be my opinion, several conclusions could be reached:

  • I must be an individual who first takes care of himself to later be able to contribute to the others health, especially on an intimate level.
    1. Healthy body and balanced mind: feeding, sport, rest, study …
    2. Meek character (and not soft): development of the capacity to understand that we don’t need to magnify ourselves to be really great but rather to serve in the morally correct and not to fear rejecting what threatens our conscience and life.
  • Everything I decide has a constructive purpose. My real pleasure is in building what is really going to last.
  • Since I am so busy improving myself to being able to give others real support with my words and actions, I know that striving to give the best version of me is what I’m passionate about tremendously and I will find someone like me simply because my decisions will end up placing me in a similar environment. Something like when we say that “love comes alone.”
  • The present world with its cruelty and evil supposes for me a place of training to obtain a better character in terms of patience, tolerance and kindness.
  • I don’t fear being honest, my authenticity relaxes me and I don’t change it for anything. I don’t pretend to be what I’m not and that is truly liberating.
  • I use the observations of others towards me as a source of wisdom. I like that they help me to improve and I try the same thing equally.

Only when we understand interdependence we would have a cooperative society and really busy in development. Unfortunately, we don’t have at a general level that desired peace, we are in war! Get ready.

WILL YOU FIGHT OR WILL YOU FEIGN?

What to do when you can’t sleep

Do you have trouble sleeping no matter how tired you are? Or do you wake up in the middle of the night and stay awake for hours, looking anxiously at the clock? Insomnia is a very common problem that takes a toll on your energy, humor and ability to work during the day. Chronic insomnia can even contribute to serious health problems. But you do not have to resign yourself to sleepless nights. Address the underlying causes and make changes in your lifestyle, daily habits and the environment before sleep can put an end to the frustration of insomnia and help you finally get a good night’s sleep.

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What you can do

  1. Recognize the different types of insomnia
  2. Identify the causes of your insomnia and its role in the problem
  3. Take steps to improve your daytime habits and the environment preceding sleep
  4. Learn how to deal with a problem to fall asleep
  5. Discover ways to go back to sleep when you wake up at night
  6. Coping with daytime stress and worries

WHAT IS INSOMNIA?

Insomnia is the inability to fall asleep or stay asleep at night, which results in something not helpful when going to sleep. Anyone who is awake at night knows how frustrating and annoying it can be to spend hours in bed waiting for sleep to come … and to know how bad it will feel in the morning if it does not. Insomnia can negatively affect all aspects of your health and well-being, what makes you feel fatigued, drowsy and low in energy during the day, affecting your mood and concentration levels and damaging your productivity at work or at school. Insomnia can also pressure you to start to rely on sleeping pills, sleeping aids or alcohol, which in the long run only makes sleep problems worse. Chronic insomnia can even seriously affect your physical and mental health, increasing your risk of suffering health problems such as stroke, diabetes, obesity, high blood pressure, heart disease, Alzheimer’s disease and certain types of cancer.

No matter how long you have been suffering from insomnia or how often you struggle to sleep, do not despair. Although it may take time to correct the habits that contribute to your sleep problems, there are a lot of things you can do to help you overcome insomnia and enjoy the dream of a full and restful night. The first step is to identify the type of insomnia you are struggling with.

TYPES OF INSOMNIA

Short-term or acute insomnia is a temporary problem caused by changes in your normal routine due to diseases, travel, pain, hormonal fluctuations or stress. Most of us experience this type of insomnia at some point in our lives and while it usually resolves when your routine returns to normal, addressing the problem early can ensure that insomnia does not persist.

Long-term or chronic insomnia occurs when you regularly experience sleep problems (three or more nights a week) for a prolonged period of time (three months or more). Since chronic insomnia has been ingrained for months, changing the unhealthy habits or thought patterns that fuel your insomnia can sometimes take time, perseverance and a willingness to experiment with different solutions.

Insomnia can also be categorized as:

Sleep onset insomnia – This is when you have difficulty falling asleep despite feeling tired. While good sleepers can fall asleep with 15 to 20 minutes of going to bed, If you have sleep onset insomnia it can take hours before the dream finally arrives.

Sleep maintenance insomnia – A condition in which you find it difficult to remain asleep. While it’s normal to wake up briefly during the night, good sleepers usually don’t remember it. But if you have sleep maintenance insomnia, you can stay awake for hours in the middle of the night fighting to go back to sleep, or you wake up too early in the morning. The result is the same: you wake up without feeling rested.

WHY I CAN’T SLEEP?

While short-term insomnia is usually due to a temporary interruption of your routine, chronic or long-lasting insomnia is most likely caused by unhealthy habits during the day and at bedtime, shift work, psychological problems and medical or a combination of these factors.

Psychological and medical causes of insomnia

Anxiety, stress and depression are some of the most common causes of chronic insomnia. Having difficulty sleeping can also make anxiety, stress, and depression symptoms worse. Other common emotional and psychological causes include anger, worry, pain, bipolar disorder and trauma. Treating these underlying problems is essential to solve insomnia.

Medical problems or diseases. Many medical conditions and diseases can contribute to insomnia, including asthma, allergies, Parkinson’s disease, hyperthyroidism, acid reflux, kidney disease and cancer. Chronic pain is also a common cause of insomnia.

Medicines. Many prescription medications can interfere with sleep, including antidepressants, stimulants for ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder), corticosteroids, thyroid hormone, medications for high blood pressure and some contraceptives. The common over-the-counter culprits include medicines for cold and flu that contain alcohol, analgesics that contain caffeine (Midol, Excedrin), diuretics and diet pills.

Sleep disorders. Insomnia is itself a sleep disorder, but it can also be a symptom of other sleep disorders, like sleep apnea, restless legs syndrome and disorders of the circadian rhythm related to jet lag or night work.

Daytime habits that cause insomnia

Have an irregular sleep schedule, take a nap, drink caffeine at the end of the day, eat sugary foods or heavy meals too close to bedtime and not doing enough exercise are all examples of diurnal habits that can affect your ability to sleep at night.

Not only diurnal bad habits contribute to insomnia, but a bad night’s sleep can make these habits more difficult to correct, creating a vicious circle of restless sleep:

  1. You sleep badly at night
  2. You feel fatigued and stressed during the day
  3. You compensate with unhealthy habits
  4. These habits affect your ability to fall asleep or stay asleep
  5. And the insomnia cycle gets worse and worse

Another common habit associated with insomnia is overstimulating the brain during the day, so it’s harder to clarify your head at night. Many of us exaggerate with our brain during the day repeatedly interrupting tasks to check the phone, email or social media. The brain becomes so conditioned to constantly seek fresh stimulation that when it’s time to relax at night your brain keeps looking for the next information.

In addition to avoiding the screens in the hours before bedtime, try to set aside specific times, during the day, the review of messages and social networks, allowing your brain to spend more time focusing on one task at a time. Taking short breaks of technology during the day and doing non-stimulating activities can also help recondition your brain’s habit of constantly seeking a new stimulus.


If you have trouble identifying the habits that induce insomnia

Some habits are so ingrained that you can overlook them as a possible contributor to your insomnia. Maybe your Starbucks habit affects your sleep more than you realize. Or maybe you’ve never made the connection between that last-minute glass of wine and your sleeping difficulties. Keeping a sleep diary is a useful way to identify the habits and behaviors that contribute to your insomnia.


Sleep environment and routines that cause insomnia

The noise, the light that filters through the window, a bedroom that is too hot or cold, or an uncomfortable mattress or pillow can contribute to insomnia. To make sure the sleeping environment is quiet, dark and comfortable, try to mask the noise with a fan or a sound machine, use low tones or wear an eye mask, and experiment with different levels of firmness of the mattress, pillows, etc.

Creating a peaceful bedtime routine sends a powerful signal to your brain that it’s time to relax and let go of the stresses of the day. The electronic screens emit a blue light that interrupts the production of melatonin in your body which helps you regulate your sleep-wake cycle. Therefore, instead of watching television in bed or using a computer, a tablet or a phone in the two hours before bed, try listening to soft music or a podcast / audiobook, take a warm bath or practice a technique of relaxation like deep breathing or meditation.

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU CAN’T SLEEP

One of the most common causes of sleep onset insomnia is anxiety or chronic worry. You get into bed at night, but you can’t sleep because your mind is competing with anxious thoughts about what you didn’t do today, about what could last tomorrow or just feeling overwhelmed by daily responsibilities.

In addition to addressing daytime habits that contribute to sleep onset insomnia (as avoiding caffeine late in the day and exercise in the morning or afternoon) there are steps you can take to learn to stop worrying at bedtime and look at life from a positive perspective. To calm your mind and prepare you for sleep, you can also try:

Use the bedroom only for sleeping. Do not work, or watch TV, or use your computer on the bed or in the bedroom. The objective is to associate the bedroom only with sleep, so your brain and body get a strong signal that it’s time to snuggle when you get to bed.

Turn off all screens at least one hour before bedtime, Dim the lights and concentrate on calm and soothing activities, like reading, knitting or listening to soothing music.

Avoid stimulating activity and stressful situations before you go to bed. This includes great arguments with your spouse or family,or catch up on work. Postpone these things until the next morning.

Change the bedroom clocks to another room. Watching anxiously how the minutes pass one by one on the clock, when you can not sleep, knowing that you will be exhausted when the alarm sounds, it’s a recipe for insomnia. You can use an alarm but make sure you don’t see what time it is when you are in bed.

Get out of bed when you can’t sleep. Do not try to force yourself to sleep. Turning on yourself, trying to fall asleep, can only increase your anxiety. Get up, leave the bedroom and do something relaxing, like reading, drinking a cup of herbal tea or taking a bath. When you are sleepy, go back to bed.

Take advantage of the relaxation response of your body. Relaxation techniques such as meditation and deep breathing not only help you calm your mind and relieve tension in the body, they also help you fall asleep faster. Regular practice is needed to learn these techniques and harness the power they have to relieve stress. But the benefits can be enormous. You can do it as part of your routine when you lie down or when you are lying down preparing to sleep. A variety of smartphone applications can guide you through different relaxation methods, or you can follow these techniques:

  • Abdominal breathing. Breathe deeply and completely, involving not only the chest, but also the abdomen, the lower back and the rib cage, can help you relax. Close your eyes and breathe deeply and slowly, making each breath even deeper than the previous one. Inhale through the nose and exhales through the mouth.
  • Progressive muscle relaxation. Be comfortable. Starting with your feet, tense your muscles as tightly as you can. Hold them like this for 10 seconds and then relax. Continue doing this for each muscle group in your body, working from the tip of your feet to the head.
  • Mindfulness meditation.Sit or lie quietly and focus on your natural breathing and how your body feels in the present, at the moment you are doing it. Allow thoughts and emotions to go unprocessed, always returning to focus on your breathing and your body.

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU CAN’T STAY ASLEEP

One of the keys to counteract sleep maintenance insomnia is to find out why you wake up at night or too early in the morning. If the light of the street lamps or traffic noise, neighbors or roommates are disturbing your dream, for example, the answer could be as simple as wearing a sleeping mask / mask or earplugs. If you are awake at 2 o’clock in the morning worrying, you need to take measures to keep your anxiety under control.

Things you should avoid before going to bed:

  • Drinking too much liquid at night. Waking up at night to go to the bathroom becomes a bigger problem as we get older. By not drinking anything an hour before bedtime and going to the bathroom several times as you prepare for bed, you can reduce how often you wake up to go during the night.
  • The alcohol before you go to bed. While a drink can help you relax and fall asleep, it interferes with the sleep cycle once you are asleep, causing you to wake up during the night.
  • Great meals at night. Try to dine earlier and avoid heavy foods with two hours before going to bed. Spicy or acidic foods can cause stomach and heartburn problems that can wake you up during the night.

What to do when you wake up at night:

  • Stay out of your head. As difficult as it is, try not to emphasize your inability to fall asleep again, because stress only encourages your body to stay awake. To stay out of your head, concentrate on what your body feels or practice breathing exercises. Inspire and then exhale slowly as you say or think the word, “Ahhh.” Inspire again and repeat.
  • Turn relaxation into your goal, not sleep. If you find it difficult to go back to sleep, try a relaxation technique such as visualization, progressive muscle relaxation or meditation, which can be done without even getting out of bed. Although it is not a replacement for sleep, relaxation can still help rejuvenate your mind and body.
  • Do a quiet and non-stimulating activity. If you have been awake for more than 20 minutes, get out of bed and do a quiet and non-stimulating activity, such as reading a book. Keep the lighting of your room down and avoid the screens to not point to your body that it is time to wake up.
  • Postpone worry and brainstorm. If you wake up at night feeling anxious about something, make a brief note of it on a piece of paper and postpone the worry until the next day, when it will be easier to solve. In the same way, if a great idea keeps you awake, take note of it on paper and go back to sleep knowing that you will be much more productive after a good night’s rest.

HEALING INSOMNIA TREATING DAY STRESS AND CONCERNS

For many of us, our sleep problems can be traced back to residual stress, the worry or anger of the day that makes it difficult to relax and sleep well at night. The worse we sleep at night, the more stressed, worried and angry we become. To break this behavior:

  1. Get help in stress management. If the stress of driving to work, family or school keeps you awake at night, learn to manage stress in a productive way and maintain a calm and positive attitude that can help you sleep better at night.
  2. Talk about your worries with a friend or loved one during the day. Talking face-to-face with someone who cares about you is one of the best ways to relieve stress and end worrying hours before bedtime. The person you are talking to does not need to be able to fix your problems, but just need to be an attentive and unprejudiced listener.
  3. Get enough exercise. Regular exercise not only relieves stress but improves the symptoms of insomnia, increases the amount of time you spend in the deep and restorative stages of sleep and help you feel less sleepy during the day. To maximize the benefits of sleep, try to exercise for 30 minutes most days, but not too close to bedtime.
  4. Look what you eat and drink. Caffeine can cause sleep problems between 10 and 12 hours after taking it, and your diet can also play a role in how well you sleep. Some people find that cutting out sugary foods, drinks and refined carbohydrates during the day makes it easier to sleep at night.

WHEN TO CONSULT A PHYSICIAN ABOUT INSOMNIA

If you have tried a variety of unsuccessful self-help techniques, schedule an appointment with a sleep specialist, especially if insomnia is having a high cost on your mood and your health. Provide the doctor with all possible support information, including information from your sleep diary.

Therapy vs. sleeping pills for insomnia

In general, sleeping pills and sleeping aids are more effective when used sparingly for short-term situations, like traveling to areas with different time zones or recovering from a medical procedure. Your insomnia won’t be cured with sleeping pills, in fact, in the long term insomnia can worsen. In fact, pills and medicines should never be consumed if we are able to prevent diseases through healthy habits, personally and socially.

Since many people complain that frustration, negative thoughts and concerns prevent them from sleeping at night, cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) can be much more effective in the treatment of insomnia. CBT is a form of psychotherapy that treats problems by modifying negative thoughts, emotions and behavior patterns. It can be done individually, in a group, or even through the internet. A study at the Harvard Medical School found that CBT was more effective in the treatment of chronic insomnia than prescription medication, but without the risks or side effects.

The greatness of humility

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“And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross.”

PHILIPPIANS 2:8

The humility it is found in a large ocean of quiet water that flows in the depth. In the deep lies self esteem. At the beginning, going into the ocean is like traveling to an unknown area of immense darkness. But, as well as exploring can lead to discover buried treasures, in the search you can find buried jewels. And the jewel that is buried in the deepest, the one that shines and gives more light is the humility. His rays penetrate the darkest moments. Eliminate fear, the insecurity and opens the person to universal truths.

Be an instrument

Humility is to accept natural principles that can not be controlled. All we have, from the body with which we were born to the most precious possessions, they are received as a gift. Therefore, it becomes a moral imperative to use these resources in a valuable and benevolent way. The awareness of being an instrument of such unlimited and timeless resources touches the essence of the human soul and wakes her up to realize that, just as at the time of birth those resources were inherited, at the time of death they will have to leave.

The awareness of being an instrument raises self-esteem and enhances the multiple different relationships found throughout life. It takes you to a state of silent reflection, inviting you to take some time for yourself and to look at life from a different perspective. The recognition of being an instrument makes the person seek renewal of relationships with others and the self.

Eliminate the “I” and the “mine”

Humility is letting go and letting be. The stone of conflict lies in the consciousness of “me” and “mine” and the possessiveness: of a role, an activity, an object, a person, even the body. Paradoxically, this consciousness makes you lose what you want to hold on to and, especially, makes him lose the most significant, the universal values that give value and meaning to life. Humility eliminates possessiveness and the limited vision that creates physical, intellectual and emotional limits. These limitations destroy self-esteem and build walls of arrogance and pride that distance people. Humility acts gently on the fissures, allowing the approach.

Everyone do “reverence” before a person who possesses the virtue of humility, since all revere themselves before those who have reverenced themselves first. So, the sign of greatness is humility. Humility allows the person to be trustworthy, flexible and adaptable. To the extent that one becomes humble, acquires greatness in the heart of others. Whoever is the personification of humility will make the effort to listen and accept others. The more you accept others, will be valued more and will be heard more. Humility automatically makes one worthy of praise.

The call to serve

Success in serving others comes from humility. The greater the humility, the greater the achievement. There can be no benefit to the world without humility. The service is carried out in the best way when we consider ourselves an instrument and when we take the first step to accept another that is different.

A humble person can adapt to all environments, by strange or negative that these are. There will be humility in attitude, in the vision, in words and relationships. The humble person will never say: “I did not mean to say it, but the words simply came up”. According to the attitude, this will be the vision; depending on the vision, the words will reflect that and the three aspects combined will ensure the quality of the interactions. The mere presence of a humble person creates an attractive environment, cordial and comfortable. His words are full of essence, power and expresses them with good manners. A humble person can make another person’s anger disappear with a few words. A word spoken with humility has the meaning of a thousand words.

In the high tides of human interrelations, humility is the beacon of light that emits signals about what awaits us in the distance. To capture these signals, the screen of the mind and intellect must be clean. Humility provides the ability to perceive situations, discern the causes of obstacles and difficulties as well as remain silent. When one must express an opinion, one does so with an open mind and with the recognition of the particularities, strength and sensitivity of others and oneself.

“To overcome vanity begin by overcoming the desire to show your humility.”

ALEJANDRO JODOROWSKY

How to understand and be interested in life

I don’t know exactly where this question came from but I guess it was from everything that surrounds me. Yes, exactly what you read. My eternal question was always what life is and why. For me, understanding this concept could help me obtain a will and an iron motivation. Why do I say this? Because if I discover that the fact that it exists is for a purpose greater than what I observe superficially then I will have discovered the mission for my life (and what I want and what I don’t want to do), but if I discover that there is no such special meaning then I will get peace because I will not be running anymore after something that may not exist. Either way, the truth (and these are not my words) it frees you. I do not have a total understanding, but for now it is very clear that my mission is to discover the truth. As I discover that truth, I will correct what I could now have misunderstood.

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Without using theories or explanations of others I will try to give my own vision of life (which may be wrong or at least slightly crooked) based on the observation of nature, so take from this the good part you agree with and what seems strange to you and you do not understand, discard it.

I have some of this clear, understanding for me is to connect. And to connect you must find something in common that have two or more different things (different because in the end it is about learning new things and understanding more and more of everything that covers our existence). Like when you use glue to glue paper to, for example, a wooden surface: they are different things that you put together but they are together because the two share the same thing, the glue.

TO CONNECT IS UNDERSTANDING THE WAY THAT TWO THINGS RELATE BETWEEN THEM AND HOW THEY DO IT.

It is not my intention to make you suffer with this article by reading this paragraph, so next I’m going to list the way I connect things to each other and try to understand what my existence entails:

  1. Choose one thing that you really like. Videogames, books, activities, food… whatever… It will be important to be able to motivate yourself to take the next step.
  2. Get a deep understanding of what you have chosen. Study, practice and try to get the most experience, make it part of you… get to understand the mechanism of how it works at a “molecular” level. You have to do a very serious investigation for this, where planning will be the base of your actions.
  3. Compare what you have learned and find patterns. Try to compare everything you find new with the model already created in your head of what you already know. As you come into contact with new things they will need to be sorted, and understand what place they have in their particular operating mechanism. For example, if I’m an expert archer, and I start doing athletics (running) I have to understand that there is a certain equivalence between pulling the bowstring backwards to be able to shoot the arrow and the position that the runner adopts at the beginning of the race and then be able to get out as quickly as possible towards the finish line.
  4. Apply what you have learned. Having become used to finding patterns, you will be able to learn new things very easily by finding their equivalence with your mental scheme already prepared and improved in the area of choice in the step 1.

In this way, there are no longer difficult tasks, only complicated. And the complicated is made up of simple things, just like a wall has bricks or that air is made up of different gases. Learn to understand what role that brick has or that gas and possibly together we can find behind all this a great truth.

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